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Ancient Chinese Wisdom
"An empty mind with no craving and no expectation helps us let go.

Being in the world and not of the world, we attain heavenly grace.

With heavenly grace, we become pure and selfless.

And everything settles into its own perfect place."

(Tao Te Ching, Chapter 3)

Everything in this world  exists because of its opposite: joy and sadness; success and failure; life and death. To understand the natural order of things, we must empty our minds first before we can attain true wisdom.

"The more we look, the less we see.

The more we hear, the less we listen.

The more we crave, the crazier we become.

What is materialist is separate from what is spiritualistic.

Therefore, value what is within, and not what is without."

(Tao Te Ching, Chapter 12)

We are living in a world of mass media. Our minds become not only compulsive but also conditioned. The wisdom is to think out of the box and listen to our hearts so that we may see things differently.

"According to military strategies,
defense is preferred to attack:
consolidation is better than over-extension.

So, we advance
not at the expense of over-stepping anyone.

So, we gain
not at the expense of making anyone lose.

So, we accomplish
not at the expense of straining ourselves."
(Tao Te Ching, Chapter 69)

Very often, we become our own enemies by straining ourselves through over-doing, erroneously  believing that the more we do the more we will get.

"People naturally avoid loss and seek gain.

But with all things along the Way,
there is no need to pick and choose.

There is no gain without loss.

There is no abundance without lack.

We do not know how and when
one gives way to the other."

(Tao Te Ching, Chapter 42)

All things follow their natural order -- just as man proposes but God disposes! Do our best and let God do the rest

"Not knowing the Way,
but pretending we know,
we remain ignorant, and suffer.

Knowing that we do not know, we pursue its wisdom:

knowing its origin
knowing its ending,
and knowing our true nature."
(Tao Te Ching, Chapter 71)

True wisdom is knowing self, rather than others. Wisdom is self-intuited knowledge with no blueprint and no role model. It's more than thinking out of the box: it's creating one's own box of thinking!.

"the Way is great because of its three essentials:
compassion, humility, and faith.
With compassion, there is no fear.
With humility, there is no strife.
With faith, there is no impossibility."
(Tao Te Ching, Chapter 67)

Compassion, humility, and faith are essential components of no-ego-self. Without focusing on others instead of on self, there is no compassion. Focusing on self, there is no humility. Relying on self efforts instead of the natural order of things, there is no faith. The wisdom is to get rid of the ego-self.

"Humility is power.
Power comes from the lowly.
According to the Way:
the lowly will be elevated;
the last will be the first.

The Creator is above,
and we are below.
The Creator is in front,
and we are behind.
Because this is the nature of things,
humility is only natural to us.
Yet many are desirous of the top,
fearful of lagging behind.
Humility is the Way."
(Tao Te Ching, Chapter 66)

Pride is the first of the Seven Deadly Sins, and pride goes before a fall. But humans are hard of hearing; they look without seeing. Their ears have become deaf and their eyes have become blind all because of their lack of humility. According to Lao Tzu, human wisdom comes from humility -- without humility, there are only desires and passions, not wisdom and true love.

"Accepting what is, we find perfection in the Creator,
as well as everything created by him.

What seemingly distorted is in fact truthful.
What seemingly lacking is in fact abundant.
What seemingly exhausted is in fact refreshing.
Possessing little, we become content.
Having too much, we lose the Creator.
Having no ego, we become humbled, and our actions are enlightened.
Having no desire for perfection, our actions are welcome by all.
Having no expectation of result, are actions are selfless and non-judgmental.
Having no goal, our actions are under-doing and never over-doing.

Accepting what is, and finding it to be perfect is not easy.
But that is the way to the Creator.
(Tao Te Cing, Chapter 22)

This is the perfect way to the ancient wisdom of Lao Tzu.

If you find Tao wisdom intriguing and enlightening, read my book TAO, The Way to Biblical Wisdom, which contains the translation of all the 81 chapters of the immortal ancient classic Tao Te Ching on human wisdom.
The following wisdom quotes are taken from Stephen Lau's book Tao The Way to Biblical Wisdom. The book includes the complete translation and interpretation of the 81 chapters of the ancient classic Tao Te Ching by the Chinese sage Lao Tzu. Understanding his profound wisdom holds the key to understanding the wisdom of the Bible.
"When you own your breath, nobody can steal your peace." (Anonymous)

Breathing right is the wisdom of health and wellness. How well we breathe is a good indicator our internal peace and harmony.

"There is more to life than increasing its speed." (Mohandas K. Gandhi)

"To realize the unimportance of time is the gate to wisdom." (Bertrano Russell)

"The busy man is never wise, and the wise man is never busy." (Lin Yutang)

"Time is of the essence" is not true wisdom. Time is an equalizer of man. The wise do not have a compulsive mind.  Relax, enjoy life, and be wise!
Contemporary Wisdom Quotes
"Human being must have action, and they will make it if they cannot find it." (Albert Einstein)

The wise not just initiate but also innovate action in order to accomplish.

"Courage is the first of human qualities because it is the quality which guarantees all the others.”  (Winston Churchill)

Life is never a bed of roses; you need courage to prick those thorns.

“What lies behind us and what lies before us are tiny matters compared to what lies within us.” (Ralph Waldo Emerson)

“Pain is inevitable, but misery is optional.”  (Tim Hansel)

“Your living is determined not so much by what life brings to you as by the attitude you bring to life; not so much by what happens to you as by the way your mind looks at what happens.” (John Homer Miller)

Life is all about perceptions: how you perceive others; more importantly, how your perceive yourself. Your life experiences are perceived by your five senses. The wisdom is to change your mind perception in order to change your body perception

“The only way to keep your health is to eat what you don’t want, drink what you don’t like, and do what you’d rather not.” (Mark Twain)

Weight loss is always difficult because you always want it your way -- eat what you want, drink what you want, and do what you want.

"Fitness -- if it came in a bottle, everybody would have a great body." (Cher)

Body fitness requires diligence and discipline. There is no shortcut to weight control and body fitness. Don't look for a miracle pill or a quick fix!

"Our lives are a sum total of the choices we have made." (Wayne Dyer)

The human mind plays a pivotal role in wellness wisdom because an individual's life experiences are perceived by the mind, and all these  perceptions consciously and subconsciously affect all life choices -- they become the life fabric of that individual.

Remember, you are what you think, and your thoughts become you!
"Every five years you get a new stomach lining. You get a new liver every two months. Your skin replaces itself every six weeks. Every year, 98 percent of the atoms of your body are replaced. This non-stop chemical replacement, metabolism, is a sure sign of life.” (Lynn Margulis)

Life is never a bed of roses. It is always full of changes and challenges, and there is not much choice.

“God asks no man whether he will accept life. That is not the choice. You must take it. The choice is how.” (Henry Ward Beecher)

The wisdom in overcoming life obstacles lies in courage and imagination.

“Courage is the first of human qualities because it is the quality which guarantees all the others.”   (Winston Churchill)

Courage is wisdom in taking the first step, doing the unthinkable, and using the imagination.

"Logic will get you from A to B. Imagination will take you everywhere.” (Einstein).

“Your imagination is your preview of life’s coming attractions.” (Einstein)

Don’t waste time worrying about this and that

“I never think of the future. It comes soon enough “ (Einstein)

“We are always getting ready to live but never living.” (Ralph Waldo Emerson)

Learn to live in the present, instead of being controlled by the past or the future. The past is gone, the future is uncertain, and only the present is real.

Life journey is paved with twists  and turns.

“All great changes are preceded by chaos.” (Deepak Chopra)

“Those things that hurt, instruct.”  (Benjamin Franklin)

“An open mind is the beginning of self-discovery and growth. We can't learn anything new until we can admit that we don't already know everything.”  (Erwin G. Hall)

Having an open mind is emptying a pre-conditioned mind that hinders success..

“Success means doing the best we can with what we have. Success is in the doing, not the getting--in the trying, not the triumph.” (Wynn Davis)
Wisdom in Focusing on What You Have

After the death of actor Robin Williams, the media were striving to look for an answer or explanation why he committed suicide. Smart, successful, funny, and handsome, Robin Williams seemed to have it all, and yet he did to himself the unimaginable and the inexplicable.

The reporters were focusing on fame, money, success, and talent of the deceased, because these are the things that the general public like to focus on because they are the things that most of the general public don't have.

In life, most people focus on what they don't have rather than on what they already have. This could also be true of Robin Williams: he would not be focusing on fame, money, success and talent, because he already had them; instead he could have been focusing on what he didn't have and not what he already had. In other words, fame, money, success
, and talent were no longer the things Robin Williams was focusing on; instead, he was focusing on what he did not have (who knows what that might be; it could be shame, as he had said he was "shameful" about his drinking, his substance abuse, or even his divorces.)

Wisdom in living is wisdom in focusing on what you have, and not what you don't have. Many people are unhappy because they focus on what they don't have, such as fame, money, success, and talent. When they focus on what they already have -- no matter what -- they have a heart of gratitude and thankfulness. Focusing on what you don't have is a negative perception, while focusing on what you already have is positive outlook of live.

Read my most recent book publication: As If Everything Is A Miracle to find out how to "rethink" your mind to live as if everything is a miracle.

Wisdom in Chewing

There is much wisdom in chewing. For one thing, it enhances the production of saliva that creates enzymes that help digestion. For another, it focuses the mind on the present, thereby slowing down the mind of its compulsive thinking. Living in the contemporary world, the mind seldom, if ever, slows down until we go to bed (even that may be difficult for many; that's why they rely on medications to make them sleep). Stress, which is the source of human disease and the accelerator of aging, is the result of inability to relax the the mind. Chewing your food is mindful eating. It not only slows down your eating process but relaxes your mind by focusing on chewing your food. According to Horace Fletcher, known as the "Great Masticator", you should chew every bite of your food 32 times. Well, if you don't want to go that far, at least chew every bite 20 times. Counting bites is better than counting calories. Chewing is the best sliming strategy. It also relaxes your mind and eradicates your stress. Spend some time with yourself, while you eat, instead of watching the TV.

Wisdom in Weight Loss through Diets

To lose weight through diets alone seldom works in the long term, especially if you want to lose weight quickly. Weight loss has to do with calories -- mind you, not simply counting calories, which often drives you crazy, especially if you are not good in math. Weight loss has to do with changing your metabolism -- the way your body processes food, that is, absorbing nutrients and eliminating toxins.

Therefore, first and foremost, provide the environment for weight loss. Detoxify your body through fasting. Any weight loss program in a toxic body never works. Eat Stop Eat provides good information on fasting.

Weight loss through diets takes time. Any instant-fix only makes your body weight fluctuates -- the worst scenario in the battle of the bulge. Diet weight loss must be accompanied by a consistent and persistent  exercise regiment. There is no shortcut.

In addition, it is what you eat that counts, and not the calories. Do not consume foods with low calories but leading to mineral imbalances, loss of fluid (making you feel you have lost some pounds), constipation, and diarrhea, or even depression.

According to researches at Cornel University, cutting fat intake can make you lose weight, "no matter how much food or how many calories you take in."

Weight loss is never easy; that is why, it takes wisdom.

Read my book All-Round Weight Loss for a holistic approach to weight loss.

Control over Your Life

In this day and age of speed, it is easy to lose control over one's life, leading to chaos.

How do you gain control over your life in terms of your profession, time, and daily stress?

Don't let your life careen out of control, and don't live a life with a life of its  own. But to get your life back in order requires wisdom in living.

According to Dr. Ronald Nathan, coauthor of The Doctors' Guide to Instant Stress Relief, the essence of control is your "feeling of in control." That is, you confidently believe there is a purpose in your life; so even temporary setbacks will not temper with your long-range visions. Accordingly, you should act confident in your attitude and body language, accounting for 80 percent of communication, while verbal only 20 percent.

According to communication expert Germaine Knapp, do the following:

Sit or stand erect (posture and breathing play a pivotal part).

Maintain eye contact.

Unfold your arms and legs.

Be more expressive in your body language, e.g. nodding your head when you say "yes."

Learn to live in the present; unfortunately, many of us don't -- we live in the future with "expectation" that often fail us, creating fear of failure, and hence the daily stress that makes life careen out of control.

To facilitate living in the present, take little bites in your life; that is, don't bite off more than you can chew. Doing one thing at a time, instead of multi-tasking, not only decreases pressure but also increases adaptability.

Wisdom in Who You Are and Not What You Do

If you are one of those who always set higher goals for yourself after accomplishing one set of goals, you are not alone. According to clinical professor Stephen Weinstein, "it is an endless cycle, and they never feel they accomplish much of anything." Blame your parent, who might have erroneously believe that your worth is measured by what you do, and not who you are.

Lao Tzu, the ancient Chinese sage, said we should not "over-do" but, instead, do what is necessary. There is little wisdom in "the sky is the limit" or "I can do anything." Don't simply believe that putting your nose to the grindstone will make you succeed; it won't! There is no such thing as an "A" for effort for success.

Remember, success has to do with who we are, and not what we do. Don't use up your body's resources and compromise your immune system; stress and stress-related diseases (most diseases come from stress) are hurdles and stumbling blocks on the way to success.

Little Time-Savers

In this age of speed, most of us have developed a compulsive mind; we are always in a hurry. Maybe you even wish you had more than 24 hours a day.

There are little time-savers to help you save your time, if you really think you are always pressed for time.

Have a place where you can always put your keys as soon as you walk in. In that way, you won't spend your time looking for your keys -- especially your memory doesn't seem that perfect as you continue to age.

Get up 10 to 20 minutes earlier in the morning. So even if something goes wrong, you won't be pressed for time.

Put everything ready, such as what to wear tomorrow, before going to bed. Deciding what to wear when time is running short can stress you.

Pay on your bills (if you have not already put all or most of your bills on auto-pay) on the same day each month.

No matter what, always give some time exclusively for yourself, so that you can do some meditation, which is the best way not only to quiet and relax the mind, but also to let your mind stay in the present moment. Meditation is easy: it requires only practice and patience (a luxury to many of us due to time stress). Go to my web page: How to Meditate.

Meditation teaches you how to slow down your compulsive thoughts, which are forever shuffling between the past and the future (memories of pleasant past experiences and projections of their anticipated repeats in the future; avoidance of unpleasant past experiences and worries of their  repeats in the future. As a result, you don't live in the present, which is the only reality.  

Taking Or Not Taking Multivitamins

The market is flooded with vitamin supplements. Should we take vitamin supplements? Or, more specifically, should we take multivitamins or individual vitamin supplements?

Take multivitamins if you are not eating a wide variety of foods, which means you may not be getting all the essential nutrients you need to stay healthy. On the other hand, daily use of a multivitamin that supplies more than 100 percent of the Recommended Dietary Allowance for many nutrients, such as vitamins A, D, and E, may not be beneficial since they are stored in the body and cannot be excreted by the body. In other words, more may not necessarily be better for some vitamin nutrients.

Of course, the best way to get all your nutrients is from natural foods (not the processed ones).

Here are the 10 most important nutritional supplements for your immune system health:

· Vitamin A to prevent thymus shrinkage (5,000 IU daily dosage)

· Vitamin B6 to maintain hormone levels and to prevent thymus shrinkage (50 mg daily dosage)

· Vitamin C to regulate T-cell (white blood thymus cells) function (at least 1,000 mg daily dosage or up to bowel tolerance)

· Vitamin E to increase infection resistance (400 - 800 IU daily dosage)

· Selenium to increase T-cell activity and antibody production for detoxification (100 mcg daily dosage)

· Zinc to boost your thymus for maturing T-cells to fight invaders (15 mg daily dosage)

· Coenzyme CO10 to increase energy production for cells’ activities

· L-glutathione to regenerate immune cells in the immune system (200 mg daily dosage)

· Magnesium to increase enzymatic reactions (100 mg daily dosage)

· DHEA to control cortisol, the stress hormone (5 mg daily dosage)

In addition to taking nutritional supplements to boost your immunity, you need to use diet, such as a natural thyroid diet, to protect your immune system.
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